What is your love language?
Answer 30 quick A or B questions and see your five love languages ranked, with a plain explanation of the top one.
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How does the love language test work?
You pick the better of two options, 30 times. We count which languages you pick most and show all five in order.
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Choose between two moments
Each question shows two small, everyday ways someone could show they care. Pick the one that would feel better to you, not the one you think you should like.
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See your five languages ranked
After question 30 you get a score out of 12 for each language, a short explanation of your top one, and a note if two are close.
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Share it with your partner
Send a link that holds your five scores. When your partner takes the test, they see both results side by side.
What are the five love languages?
The five love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. Counselor Gary Chapman described them in his 1992 book The 5 Love Languages. The idea is simple: people tend to feel cared for in different ways, and mixing them up causes quiet hurt.
Each language has its own page with signs, examples and what to avoid.
- Words of affirmation: you feel loved when care is said or written. Praise, thanks and kind notes matter most.
- Quality time: you feel loved when you have someone's full attention. A phone-free evening beats an expensive gift.
- Receiving gifts: you feel loved when a thoughtful object shows you were remembered. The thought counts, not the price.
- Acts of service: you feel loved when someone makes your day easier. Help with a chore says more than a speech.
- Physical touch: you feel loved through closeness. Hugs, held hands and a hand on the back make you feel safe.
What does your result mean?
Your top score shows the kind of care you notice most easily. It does not mean you dislike the others. Most people score high in two or three languages, which is why we show all five.
Each language has 12 questions, so every score runs from 0 to 12 and the five scores add up to 30. A score of 9 or more is a strong pull. A score of 3 or less means that style matters little to you. If two scores are within one point, treat them as equals.
Use the result as a starting point for a real conversation. Tell your partner what a good day of care looks like for you, and ask what it looks like for them.
How was this test made?
Every question is original. Each of the ten pairs of languages is compared three times, and every language shows up in exactly 12 of the 30 questions, so no language has an edge from appearing more often. Options switch sides from one question to the next, so the answer in the first position is not always the same kind.
The scoring is plain counting. There is no hidden weighting and no machine learning. You can read the full method on the about page.
How accurate is a love language test?
It is good at telling you what you prefer today, and weak at predicting anything about a relationship. The ideas behind love languages come from one counselor's observations, not from controlled studies. Researchers who tested the theory found little proof that matching love languages makes couples happier. What it can do is help you and your partner talk about what care looks like. That is the use we recommend.
Take the test with your partner
The quiz is more useful in two. Finish it, press Send to my partner and share the link. Your partner takes the test on their own phone and sees both results. Read the guide for couples for what to do with the differences, or learn how to find your partner's love language if they would rather not take a quiz.
Is it private?
Yes. The questions, the scoring and the result all run in your browser. There is no account and no database. When you press share, the link carries five small numbers, and your partner's browser reads them. Our server never sees them. Details are on the privacy page.